In the early stages of parental alienation, I held closely to the hope of being a pertinent part of my daughter’s life. In fact, after the first six years and three months of my custody battle, I was awarded shared equal custody, and the courts agreed to one of the psychiatrist’s advice for Alexis to spend an entire month with each parent and during the weekends, every other weekend.

The doctor’s court recommendation was provided after an extensive evaluation of Alexis, her mother, and me. It comprised a comprehensive observation of her mother and me with Alexis. His report concluded that extensive parental alienation existed, and the maternal mother was alienating me from my daughter.

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The Big Win for Alexis and Myself

His report and those of other vital professionals led to an immediate custody change in court. The following weekend, Alexis spent the first major weekend with me and, later, our first whole month.

Her Mother Temporally Ended Parental Alienation.

Her mother was under high scrutiny and temporally ended any alienation against me. The court changes helped promote a positive environment for Alexis, and my relationship with my daughter began to thrive. For a year, my relationship with Alexis was akin to a normal father-daughter relationship, and I was thankful that others noticed a positive difference in Alexis.

The changes were a direct result of a six-year and three-month custody case which later lingered on.

The Highlight of my Custody Case was the WIN!

Today’s society awards those who place in the top three events for various sporting events. Unfortunately, we either win, or we don’t. Within the realm of parental alienation, no participation trophies are provided in this harsh reality of separation.

Winning my custody case was a win for my daughter and me, and I was gracious to receive Shared Physical Custody.

About a year after the Big Win

My health began to plummet about a year after I changed custody. My doctor warned me about the excessive weight I had gained during my custody case. I realized that I eat to deal with the pain. I used to order a medium pepperoni pizza every other night, not to mention the chips, cake, and candy. My favorite treat was apple pie.

My weight reached a dangerous 283 pounds. ; my health was failing.

Then it happened: I began to drink insane amounts of water and soda. I was rushed to the emergency room, where it was discovered I was in diabetic ketoacidosis. The doctors told me bluntly I was probably going to die.

I struggled to regain my health, so I asked my former wife to care for Alexis. I asked her to reschedule days as I was in the hospital. She never once agreed to let me make up any time. My health and the Big Win to connect with Alexis began to fade.

By comparison, had her mother suffered significant medical issues, I would have taken care of Alexis when asked, and I would have cooperated with her mother to help he make up for the time she may have lost during her medical emergency.

While my health improved, I began losing weight and began losing Alexis.

This was a significant health scare. I began changing my eating habits and lost over 80 pounds. During the frequent medical issues and my recovery, her mother began to alienate me again.

Just after my daughter’s 18th birthday, Alexis changed her surname to her stepfather’s. Not only did I lose time with Alexis, but this vile last name change created untold grief and pain. After months of grieving my lost daughter, I decided to overcome the issues no matter what.

As Alienated Parents, we must win the fight.

The tortured heart of an alienated parent is fraught with fear and unknown outcomes. The constant worry, time in court, and conflict can have a significant adverse effect on our health, as it’s been with me.

We are the mothers and fathers of alienated children. Therefore, it is our responsibility to become the very best person we can evolve to be under this unimaginable stress. We must never choose the mindset of just existing. We are created to live life to the fullest while making each day count. We can have a meaningful and quality life, but we must live so that we can give our alienated kids our best. And we must live well, even if we don’t have our children.

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