Revelation for an Alienated College Student

A remarkable conversation from a former alienated daughter who recently reconnected with her mother

Welcome to today’s article.  This article highlights an alienated mother’s hope for a reunion with her daughter.  The daughter is now a junior at Virginia Tech, and an only child.  We will refer to this young woman as Tracy.   Nearly ten years ago, her father presented false information against the mother and the young girl was removed from her mother’s home.

I met her mother at a church event, and we became friends.  We realized our kids have been alienated from us, by the agitating parents: my wife and her husband.

Over the years, her mother, whom I’m calling Sarah, and I continued to stay in contact.  Early this past summer, Sarah shared with me her personal victory.   Years ago, she had graduated from law school and began earning a good living.  She decided to pursue law as a result of having her child taken from her. At the time of her daughter’s removal, she was a housewife and had no money of her own.  She became highly depressed and abused alcohol as a method to cope with losing her daughter.  This is not an uncommon, although self-harming, coping mechanism among alienated parents.  She vowed that at some point of time she would reconcile the lies of her former husband.  Positioning herself to fight back meant she needed to educate herself and make money.

Several months ago, she hired a private investigator and discovered a treasure trove of information about her former husband and daughter.

I encouraged Sarah to try to reach out to both her former husband and daughter. More than two months passed, and I didn’t hear from her.  She called me about three weeks ago to let me know her former husband sent her a single sentence reply, “Do not contact me again and never contact our daughter.”

She made several unsuccessful attempts to reach her daughter, so I suggested she let me try to broker a meeting between her daughter and myself.   A few days ago, I was able to meet Tracy’s roommate and gave her the link to this site.  I asked for her help with a reunion with Tracy’s mother and she agreed to help.

This Thursday afternoon, I received a call from Tracy, a young lady whom I’ve never meet.  I could tell she was cautious and highly guarded. 

Within the first few minutes of our phone call, she said: Well, Sir, I’m not sure what to think.  My dad told me my mother could never speak with me for 30 years and was serving a prison sentence for a horrible crime.  I told her father’s statement was false and if she wanted to talk to her mom that day, she could.   I provided her mom’s mobile phone and urged her to call her mother once we finished our call. 

It's also ironic that the mother and daughter currently live in the same large apartment complex located in Blacksburg, VA.  Neither woman noticed one another. 

After I provided her mother’s phone number, I received a phone call from Sarah.  They agreed to meet at a coffee shop just down the street from where they both live.

While Sarah is delighted to reconnect with Tracy, I can’t help but think of other alienated parents who have been falsely accused, rendered impotent, and lied about by the agitator.

We must support hopeful stories of success and recognize the evil that is parental alienation. Overcoming parental alienation may require us to live a lovely life with or without our alienated kids.  

Love is the greatest defender,

Darel L. Long