Jasmin: reunited with her father yet alienated by her mother.

Part 2: Jasmin shares her hope, education, and the latest news.

Last week I introduced Jasmin and her story; a link to her story is provided below.

Jasmin’s hope and love extend toward her future, but she does not let her past define her life.

Jasmin’s unique story about parental alienation has provided hope for alienated parents and kids. Today, I want to share more about her past and end with her remarks. The recent article about Jasmin shared the pain she and her father shared as both have been alienated by her siblings and mother. The stark reality of a mother who demanded her daughter physically move to her grandma’s home at an immature age because she wanted to pursue a relationship with her father is heartbreaking.

As Jasmin and I coordinated the two articles, she wanted to include some essential realities and things I learned from meeting Jasmin. I want to bring them to light for the readers and share more about parental alienation.

In this article, Jasmin wanted to return to her grandma’s passing day and share more of her reflections.

“The day my grandma passed away, I was devastated. I had called her a few times and thought nothing of her not answering the phone. The next day we visited to ensure she was ok, and we found her on the couch. She had passed away. I called my mom, and she ignored my phone call. I then called my aunt, who told my mom about my grandma’s passing. My aunt came quickly and said my mom wasn’t going to grandma’s home. I took this moment to realize that my mom truly had abandoned her mom and me, her daughter.

While at my grandma’s home, my aunt said to me that my grandma loved me so much and she had made the right decision. I asked her what she was talking about! She told me Grandma also loved my dad, and she changed her will just a week prior. She left her home for me, but she removed my siblings and mother from her will. She said my dad was aware of this change and promised my grandma that she and my dad would tell me the day Grandma passed. My grandma had terminal cancer and never wanted me to know, but my father and aunt were aware of the situation. Grandma also drank wine to dull the pain, and she believed she was sinning by drinking every night. She had spoken to her pastor about her situation, leading to greater peace during her remaining years.

Terrell, the gang leader, and protector, was also in her will. She allowed my aunt and me to choose any item from home first, and for anything we didn’t take, she wanted Terrell and his gang to take the rest. He was to take the clothes, furniture, appliances, and whatnot. She left a heartfelt letter thanking Terrell for saving me from CPS. My dad had made arrangements with Terrell to gather what was left over and give the stuff to him.

Terrell arrived with the gang members, and Dad asked me to pass along the note Grandma wrote about Terrell. After reading it, he hugged me and said, “It’s been nice knowing you, and he would take good care of my grandma’s stuff.” He said he knew people who needed the furniture and stuff from the house and would take it to other families. People who lived near Grandma later told us Terrell kept his promise.

When Terrell attended her funeral, he said that she treated him more like a grandson. And I saw that gang member cry.

My aunt, who helped care for my sister, later told me my mom said, “Well, that little bitch got the home, and I got nothing.” My own mother said this about me.

When they sold the home, my aunt and I split $75,000.00; I deposited my half and bought my father a gold pocket watch; I had the jeweler etch into the back of the watch ‘much love’, my name, and my grandma’s name, Ethel. I also bought my first car with my dad’s help. Since then, I’ve spent none of the remaining money and have worked part-time at Radford Hospital.

After we had moved into my dad’s friend’s rental home, my dad found a better-paying job in South West Virginia. He later qualified for his first home purchase, and we moved in just over a year ago. I now attend Radford University in Radford, Virginia, and we live close to the college.

My dad has since met a nice woman, and they are now engaged to be married this summer. She and I get along simply great. I introduced my dad to his girlfriend, a Nurse from Radford Hospital.

I still haven’t seen my brother, sister, or mother since the day my mom drove me to Grandma’s home and dropped me off. I recently made one last attempt to reconnect with them through Facebook, and my mother and brother blocked me. I sent a PM to my sister, who responded after several weeks and agreed to meet Dad and me in a few weeks; maybe she will or won’t.”

I asked Jasmine if she had suggestions or concluding thoughts regarding Parental Alienation, and I’m sharing her reply.

“Mr. Long, my dad took the rejection of my siblings awfully hard, and it’s been difficult for me to be alienated from my mom. I’ll never forget the night she packed my luggage and took me to Grandma’s and has never seen or spoken to me since then. I think it’s odd that my own mother rejected me because I refused to not give up on my dad. But her mother, my grandmother, treated me not only as my grandma but also as a mother.

My Long, I’ve read many of your articles about PA and noticed how you sign most of your reports with “Love is the greatest defender,” and you are correct. As a kid, all we need is someone to love us with all their heart. My dad did love me with all his heart, but my mother didn’t. I wish I could have grown up in a happy home with a mom and dad, but it wasn’t my choice.

For some reason, I was able to adjust to Mom’s rejection. I know this may sound harsh, but I don’t care if she rejected me. In my mind, I’ve accepted the fact that my mom rejected me, but it still hurts me deeply.

I honestly believe those who alienate others are evil people who teach others to hate within the family. As a Black woman, I have never experienced racism from others, and that is saying a lot! I once lived in the inner city of Richmond, but I believe the acts of alienating a kid from a parent is like racism.

On a positive note, my dad will soon be married this summer, and I will begin the Registered Nursing program this fall. I will move into my first apartment in August, and I wish you and your readers the best.”

Part 1, Jasmin reunited with her father yet is alienated by her mother

Part 3 will be released the following week.

Love is the greatest defender,

Darel L. Long