Working with a malevolent parent who alienates our children may be one of the worst pathways through life for any parent to endure.   As loving parents, we can’t fathom how another parent can teach, train, and support acts of alienation against us.  Yet it always happens, no matter how hard we try. Because we may be dismissive early on and lack the understanding of what we are facing as alienated parents, it’s easy to make critical mistakes that may set the tone for our relationship with our kids. 

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Since I launched this site, OvercomeParentalAlienation.com, I’ve tried to post an article each week.  I do this to promote ideas and solutions to help those who endure PA, and it has helped me improve my understanding of my past with my former wife and my daughter, Alexis.  Doing so has helped me help my readers.

Some of the agitators hold prestigious jobs, roles, and a Ph.D. Some are police officers, and in my case, my former wife, the alienating party, is also a professional.  

To consider possible solutions, let’s expose the weakness some agitators possess. 

Some Agitators Weakness

1. Their professional prestige

2. Professional Standing

3. And sometimes, there are lies that they use to promote their standing over the victim of Parental Alienation.

A Short Back Story about my adversary, the former wife who promoted Parental Alienation against me.

My readers are aware that my former wife isn’t only the former wife, but she is also the Director of Counseling over an extensive public school system. Likewise, due to her acts of Parental Alienation, she has no business as a counselor for children, much less as the director of counseling. 

My former wife’s prestige and professional standing matter to her; nearly four years ago, I gained the courage to call my former wife’s supervisor to announce her as the alienator.  I also said I knew her parental alienation was akin to child abuse. I was very close to going on record, and I planned to send my former wife’s supervisor a letter and complete the complaint form.

I wrote the draft letter listing my complaints but wanted to consider it before sending it.  The next day, my lawyer contacted me to confirm he received a tirade of complaints from my former wife’s strange lawyer, which included the often unenforceable “Cease and Desist Order” and other legal threats.  In other words, my former wife and alienator became unglued, and had I exposed her, she may have lost her job or other issues, or the school board may have given other legal implications against her. 

I knew without any doubt that I had struck a nerve.

Had I followed through with action, a battle would have occurred, legal costs would have soared, and sleepless nights may have happened. Still, she may now have escaped public rebuke and have risked losing her prestige as a director of counseling.  There is a chance she would have changed her attitude to work out a deal with me, the father of Alexis Long, and not the false surname she accepted. Indeed, my point is based on my instinct.  Had she chosen to fight in court, I knew she had friends in high places, but perhaps she would have exposed herself to the student’s parents. 

Final Thoughts

The purpose of my site is to provide ideas and solutions for the Alienated Parent to consider.  As the articles are posted, my efforts are based on answers to improve the net percentage for a reunion with our kids. I’ve been fixated on ideas to help increase the odds of a reunion. 

The idea of shaming the opposing parent into submission is risky.  The alienator may choose to fight regardless of the open public ridicule, which may occur if they are labeled in the public domain as the alienated parent. Only you can discern the likelihood of success. 

If you choose this possible solution, you must be ready to fight without retreating and courageously push through the conflict until you have an agreement, that can be enforced by the courts, which gives you full or shared physical custody of the children. 

Since I’m data-driven, I believe roughly 10% of alienated parents can use this solution to solidify their relationship with their kids.  

Love is the greatest defender,

Darel L. Long

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